How to Help Your Partner Try Something New in Your Relationship

Introducing new experiences into a relationship can be exciting, but it's common for one partner to feel hesitant. Whether it’s a new hobby, a different type of date night, or something more significant, navigating this can be tricky. The key is to approach the situation with empathy, patience, and clear communication.

1. Understand Their Perspective

Before you even suggest something new, try to understand why your partner might be resistant. Are they a creature of habit? Do they feel anxious about change? Perhaps they had a negative experience in the past related to the activity you’re suggesting. Don't assume their hesitation is a rejection of you or the relationship. Instead, see it as an opportunity to connect and understand them on a deeper level.

You can start the conversation with open-ended questions like, "What are your thoughts on trying a cooking class together?" or "I was thinking about exploring a new hiking trail. How does that sound to you?" Listen to their answers without judgment and acknowledge their feelings.

2. Communicate Your "Why"

Your partner will be more open to trying something new if they understand why it's important to you. Share the reason behind your suggestion. Are you hoping to create more shared memories? Do you want to reignite a spark? Be vulnerable and explain what you hope to gain from the experience.

For example, you could say, "I've been feeling a little disconnected lately, and I think doing something fun and different together, like that weekend trip I mentioned, would really help us reconnect." This approach focuses on the benefit to the relationship, not just your personal desire.

3. Start Small and Be Patient

You don’t have to jump from zero to 100. If you want to get into rock climbing, don't immediately suggest a difficult multi-day expedition. Start with a single session at an indoor climbing gym. If you're hoping to introduce a new type of cuisine, suggest a casual lunch at a new restaurant instead of a fancy dinner reservation.

Small steps reduce pressure and make the new experience feel less daunting. Celebrate these small wins and acknowledge their willingness to step outside their comfort zone, even just a little. Remember that forcing the issue will only build resentment and make them less likely to try again in the future. Patience is your most valuable tool.  

4. Make It a Shared Adventure

Frame the new activity as something you'll explore together, not just something they're doing for you. Emphasize that you'll both be beginners. Learning and failing together can be a powerful bonding experience. Maybe you both take that dance class, even if you’re a better dancer, so you can both stumble and laugh together.

Make sure they feel supported every step of the way. If they show interest, follow through with planning and logistics, but ensure they feel like they have a say in the process. Ask questions like, "Which day works best for you?" or "Does this look like a fun place to start?"

5. Create a Safe Space

Most importantly, your partner needs to feel safe and secure. This means creating an environment where they feel no pressure to enjoy the activity. Let them know it's okay if they don't like it. The goal isn't necessarily to find a new passion, but to share a moment together.

After the activity, ask for their honest feedback without getting defensive. If they say they didn't enjoy it, respect their feelings. What matters is that they were willing to try. Your partner’s trust is invaluable, and showing them you respect their boundaries will make them more likely to take a leap of faith with you next time.